When Adam and I went to our premarital counseling, the most important thing impressed upon us was the importance of guarding the unity of our marriage. This includes not badmouthing each other and keeping the private matters of our marriage private. In the almost five years of our married life, we've worked hard to do just that. And since becoming a family of three, I'd like to think that the idea of guarding our unity extends to our little one as well.
At a moms' group I attended recently, I was disturbed to find myself sitting at a table of women who did nothing but openly disrespect their children and husbands. To make matters worse, they each tried to outdo the others with their outrageous stories, and I got up to sit at another table. I just couldn't take it.
Being a wife and a mother is hard work, but it brings me so much joy. Adam and Lily are the people I share my life with, the ones I'm committed to, the ones I'm sticking with. And I hope to never speak so harshly about them, especially to other people.
And what's more, I enjoy them. Even in the craziness, I enjoy them.